2011-05-22 17:28:31 Good dating book recommendations?

Long story short I saw this smoking hot babe on the subway last week and she glanced at me two or three times. Normally this doesn't happen but I think there was something special with this one...thing is, my communication skills are rather poor when it comes to women and I don't approach or talk to them. :/

I have missed a lot of "opportunities" because of this. I was wondering if you guys could recommend some books on the subject? I am going to buy "the red queen" (why you ask? Watch the beginning of this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2PdJFbjWHEU)

Otherwise I eat healthy, I am educated and interested in more education, I look ok at the moment but I haven't gone to the gym for a while (since I was unemployed at the time, need to clear visa)...I need to become more confident!!!

Plz help if possible

2011-05-22 20:10:41

In my experience quantity is the solution, you'll get shot down a lot but some times you won't and it's those times that count. I doubt any retarded dating technique or guide for chatting women up will help if you don't have the balls to do it anyway. Just be yourself, show interest in whoever it is you are talking to and be ready to crash and burn a few times before getting lucky :P

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Chanticleer Hegemony

2011-05-22 20:20:07

Yeah books are definitely not a good idea.

Just know that if you fuck up with a smoking hot babe on the subway you'll probably never see her again. You'll feel great just doing it. Eventually it'll work out if it's gonna work out.

2011-05-22 20:20:59 In reply to Megido (2011-05-22 20:10:41)

No joke. A coworker of mine hits on anything and everything, both as a means of increasing his chances and as a way of practicing his flirting. It's been working for him big time.

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2011-05-22 20:54:12 In reply to Megido (2011-05-22 20:10:41)

This guy speak the true. Listen to him over any book out there.

2011-05-22 23:05:16

Alright thnx Megido, but I get the feeling I missed out on something special that day. The way she was looking at me...

In university I had girls falling over me and I ignored em :/ gosh I am such a retard sometimes :(

2011-05-22 23:08:05

btw this women approach anxiety started when I was in grade 5. I approached this really cute girl I had a crush on, said "Hi" and she basically shunned me all-together (also replied with a rude comment). I was so heart-broken, I never tried again :(

2011-05-23 10:35:43 In reply to Megido (2011-05-22 20:10:41)

This...
No good things come from pretending to be someone else, if she doesn't like who you are, then she can go fuck herself...

And please don't buy a book about dating, there's no secret formula to meeting woman or a line that always works. If someone likes you, it really doesn't matter what you say.
Heck half of the time "Hi" is more than enough :-)

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"First come smiles, then comes lies. Last is gunfire"

2011-05-23 17:38:25

Very interesting thnx for the reply firewire

2011-05-23 18:36:58 In reply to Doom_Bringer (2011-05-23 17:38:25)

No problem!

And when you hook up: Pics or it didn't happen ;-)

Good luck mate!

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"First come smiles, then comes lies. Last is gunfire"

2011-05-23 18:54:42

For £1,000 I'll be happy to teach you everything I know.

2011-05-23 18:54:59

*£5,000

2011-05-23 19:06:46 In reply to blmbox (2011-05-23 18:54:59)

A proof of concept is the least you can offer before we start talking about money :-P

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"First come smiles, then comes lies. Last is gunfire"

2011-05-23 19:44:48

you should of caveman styled it :)

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PSN:ManThatYouFear
Santa better bring me what i want...

2011-05-23 19:52:30

Yeah, ......crack her on the head then proceed to sexing here right there. Always a sure fire way of success.

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Chanticleer Hegemony

2011-05-23 19:56:01 In reply to FireWire (2011-05-23 19:06:46)

Hey, I'll start talking when the money's in my account!

2011-05-23 20:20:26 In reply to Megido (2011-05-23 19:52:30)

Cavemans version of date rape.

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PSN:ManThatYouFear
Santa better bring me what i want...

2011-05-24 06:36:00 In reply to Doom_Bringer (2011-05-22 23:08:05)

Dude, first thing is you have to like yourself, be comfortable with where you are going in life, and not be so concerned what others think of you. If you cannot be completely yourself and have them like you it isn't worth the time. So be yourself, be confident in who you are, and treat women with respect. You know, talk to them as real peeps. Quality attracts quality. And if a nice gal turns you down think of it as a positive: you won't be wasting any more effort and it is creepy. People understand being heartbroken when a long relationship ends, but everything else is just... obsessive. Smart women avoid obsessive males. Btw, you would do good to avoid obsessive/scatterbrained/yo-yo girls.

Oh, and don't introduce yourself as Doom_Bringer. That is just creepy.

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Pwn'd by Phaethon360.

2011-05-24 23:59:49

hahaha @ the final sentence. But yea note take, thanks for the input

2011-05-28 03:20:27

man the girl is still BLOWING MY BRAIN!!! God damn she was sooo beautiful!!! @%@#%!@#%!#%!#%(!@#%( I hate myself

2011-05-28 08:54:27

Good lord, just sotp obsessing over some girl in the subway that might have looked at you and might have been interested. First off you don't even know that she gave a crap about you, second you didn't do anything anyway so whining and obsessing about it is probably the least productive thing you could possibly do and third just move on. Go out, have a drink with your friends and talk to some girls.

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Chanticleer Hegemony

2011-05-28 15:51:20

Very logical megido, but yea you are 100% correct

Sigh..........

2011-05-28 16:36:38

Be agressive and don't for the love of God act like some obsessed horny sick dude.

Thats it, agressiveness and self confidence will get you the hottest girl in a bar.

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Real Madrid C.F. fan.

2011-07-26 02:07:22

Ask her. Ask her for Sex.

2011-07-30 01:12:33

Smile, research has shown by smiling at someone you make yourself more appealing.

No maniacal grins though. And NONE of this http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tLPZmPaHme0&feature... ;D

I know it sounds stupid but its little things like that and simply making light/small talk that can kick things off.

Most of the things people have posted here are true, with the possible exception of the caveman date-rape... possible.